Really what this makes me think of is the scene in Clueless when Cher is talking about not understanding the male population of her generations ensemble selection. I believe she says, "So okay, I don't want to be a traitor to my generation and all but I don't get how guys dress today. I mean, come on, it looks like they just fell out of bed and put on some baggy pants and take their greasy hair - ew - and cover it up with a backwards cap and like, we're expected to swoon? I don't think so."Okay, well mountain men of my generation I can assure you that when the women of this generation see your "no shave November" look going into the months of March (because it has literally been that long since you cut your hair or shaved your face) we are not thinking, "mmmhmm, let me get me some of that". Instead you reminding us of Burt Reynolds character from the end of the movie Without a Paddle makes us think, well of just that...Burt Reynolds's character from Without a Paddle. He was funny, he was crazy, but sexy...he was not.
I will be perfectly honest here, I detest long hair on guys and I'm not much of a fan for facial hair, unless it is maintained, so I know my opinion may seem biased. If you are reading this and think, well this is just her opinion and obviously not what she is attracted to, then yes you would be somewhat right. I will not argue, this is my opinion that is fact, but really and truly the reason I, as well as several other women I have spoken with feel the way that we do about this new look that so many men are currently sporting is because it makes them look unkempt.I do not think that physical appearance is the most important thing in the world. I do believe that what is on the inside is more important. In fact I know many people who I would not have considered hot at first glance, but now that I know them I think they are extremely attractive. With that being said, I am not the most shallow person in the world, but I do think it is imperative that we take care of ourselves.
When I see a man who looks like he needs to cut his hair and shave his face I immediately think he needs to bathe. Dirty is not sexy. Guys you may be squeaky clean, but in my head I'm thinking your not so fresh and so clean clean. This new trend suggests to me that you look this way because you don't care. Those who don't care are lazy. Lazy is not an adjective that people want associated with themselves. Looking messy tells me that you do not care about yourself and are probably lacking in hygiene. Hygiene is a must!
When I see a man who looks like he doesn't care about himself it is a tell tell sign to me that he will not care about anyone else either and why would I want to be with a man like that? Why would any woman want to be with a man that could never care for her? If you don't care enough to care about yourself, you obviously will never care about me. No woman that I know of would want these qualities in a man.
I miss the olden days when people were classy and had personal pride in themselves. They woke up in the mornings and got DRESSED. Men and women. They did not just roll out and go because that simply would not be acceptable. The suit is a classic and one that few men these days seem utilize.
Suits are like a magic weapon that men forget about. Obviously there is more to it than just throwing on the suit, but it's a big step. Suits are sexy, they make men look sexy, they evoke a sense of power that is indescribable. If a man wears a suit and has shaved his face, fixed his hair and look like he actually gave a shit before he walked out of his house then his sex appeal multiplies immensely. The fact is men, like it or not, a classic is a classic for a reason. The suit is the equivalent to our "little black dress". It just works! Men are much more visual creatures than women, this is why statistically a man is more likely to have a porn addiction than a woman. So men think of it this way... a well tailored suit is to women what lingerie is to men. Men think about how much it turns you on to see us in sexy lingerie...don't you want to turn us on the same way?
These are merely some suggestions to the burley men of my generation. Consider all that I have said and take it to heart. If a suit is not your thing then just do this and I promise it will dramatically increase your sex appeal...are you ready for the secret...are you...are you hanging at the edge of your seat...here it goes...I'll tell you...this is all you have to do...cut your hair and shave your face. Let us see those beautiful features that God gave you. If I have to search for your lips under all that hair that is on your face I am not going to want to kiss them (no matter how good of a kisser you are). That's it. The big secret is out, now if you want to turn an entire 180 then I suggest you suit up!Here is some pictoral proof. Enjoy!
Love Always,
Cassandra B.
"The Other C.B."
